BELIEVE that what makes you VULNERABLE makes you BEAUTIFUL!

We are wired for connection.

Our biochemistry (think anti-stress hormones like oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine) and our nervous system evolved in tribal communities where our chances of survival were increased through our social connection.
We learned what we needed to survive from our families and elders in the tribe.

Because of this, we learn, grow, and heal more easily in connected relationships.

Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives.

But here is the paradox…

We have to allow ourselves to be seen and heard (to be vulnerable) to have connection.

Connection is the result of authenticity.

But our fear that we are unworthy of connection – that we are unlovable, that we don’t belong, that we are not good enough, that we are not understood, etc. – is a major barrier to allowing ourselves to be seen…

…and we all have some form of these fears…

…so we hide.

And when we hide, it shows up in the body as chronic muscle tension – a hard barrier of protection that keeps our vulnerabilities contained inside and harsh circumstances outside.

We numb our feelings.

We pretend that we are unaffected at great cost to ourselves, because when we numb our feelings, we can’t selectively numb the unpleasant ones. When we numb one, we numb them all.

We feel more alive when we stop numbing feelings and allow our vulnerability.
Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, joy, gratitude, and meaningful life.
I help you reconnect to yourself through your body and help you feel seen and heard without skipping over the hard parts so you can heal your deepest hurts and feel acceptance for yourself.

When you feel acceptance for yourself, everything changes.

And you”ll begin to believe that what makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.

Photo by permission of my two beautiful nieces.

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Salve for the Soul

My business coach asked a group of us what we had been white washing or hiding in our lives a few days ago.

I have been pondering this question for a bit.

Because I live pretty honestly, I couldn’t come up with anything – not that I don’t think there is anything… It is just unconscious. I share as soon as I become aware.

Then today, I had a Rosen session.

I became aware of a hurt that I quit sharing about, because the people who were involved couldn’t see or hear my hurt – sharing with them just kept putting more hurt on top of the original hurt.

It was good to let it be seen and heard today – salve for the soul.

My body softened and I felt like I belonged more in this world again.

It was also interesting that because the hurt had been expressed (many times) but rejected as invalid, I had to be given permission – to be told that my hurt was justified – before I could drop in to my vulnerability.

Of course I knew cognitively that my hurt was justified, but being dismissed or having my hurt passed over and unacknowledged by others (which is familiar) tripped that old hiding my feelings habit.

I needed help getting out.